"Growing up Southern is a privilege, really. It's more than where you're born - it's an idea, a state of mind that seems imparted at birth. It's more than loving fried chicken, sweet tea, high school football, country music, and acoustic guitars. It's being hospitable, being devoted to front porches, magnolias, the good Lord, and each other. We don't become Southern - we're born that way."


Southern Loving - Love, on a plate.

Clearly, I've lost my mind. I've decided to start another blog! This one is going to be all about cooking. Or as I call it, Southern Loving. I thought the best way to start this out was with a re-run of a post from my main blog, Putting the FUN in DysFUNctional. It's called Southern Loving, hence the title of this blog.

Southern Loving
There's something about us Southern Women. Many of us love to cook. It's not just the preparing of food and satisfying hunger. Feeding people is a way of taking care of them. Food equals love. If we love you, we feed you, and we feed you well.
If you don't fall into this stereotype, don't get offended.
But many of us Southern women do. It's in our blood. There is not much in this world that compares to the comfort food prepared by a Southern woman. Chicken & dumplings, meatloaf and mashed potatoes, beef stew, chicken & yellow rice....potato salad, banana pudding...I could go on all day.
I am dead serious when I say that my cooking is one reason my husband fell in love with me. He wasn't used to it; his family is from England and their way of cooking is quite different. He got used to my cooking very quickly. His favorite is holidays, when several Southern women get together and cook. And dinner on the grounds at church is his idea of Heaven.
We feed our men, we feed our kids, we feed our sick, we feed our grieving. We eat to mourn and to celebrate.
Sometimes we keep recipes to ourselves as a sort of signature dish. I'm always the one who brings potato salad to our family gatherings.
Other times we happily share our recipes. If you ever want some fantastic Southern recipes, go visit my friend Rachel at A Southern Fairytale. My family even loves her because I try so many of her recipes and they are amazing!
Now the time has come that one of my daughters is interested in cooking. The little one is all about helping, but Shelbie can actually cook. A few weekends ago, she was at her dad's house flipping through a cookbook. She found a recipe for Chocolate Covered Peanut Butter Bars, and her signature dish was created. They are delicious! She's made it a few times at her dad's house and now twice at home. I brought one dish to work, and now everyone on the unit, from clerks to neurosurgeons, think she's the bomb! And when I told her that, she was so pleased. She's learning already that feeding people good food is rewarding. It just feels good.
Another dish I love to bring to work is the Black Eyed Pea Dip. It may sound a little odd, but it is make-you-wanna-slap-your-mama good! I got that recipe from Melissa at Stretch Marks. Even my friend from Chicago, who thought it sounded horrible, ended up LOVING it, and now that she's moved back to Chicago, she's making it for her family there!
When you come to my house, you might trip over a dog or a cat. You might have to move some clean laundry over to have a seat on the couch. But you will be fed, and you will be fed well.
It's love, on a plate.

And since, when I love you, I feed you....here are some Southern recipes for you. Enjoy!

Hot & Cheesy Black Eyed Pea Dip
1 (16-ounce) can black-eyed peas, drained, rinsed
1 (14-ounce) can artichoke hearts, drained, chopped
2 tablespoons grated Parmesan cheese
1/2 cup sour cream
1/2 cup mayonnaise
1 envelope buttermilk ranch salad dressing mix
1 cup shredded mozzarella cheese

Combine all the ingredients in a bowl and mix well. Spoon into a baking dish.
Bake at 350 degrees for 30 minutes or until bubbly.
Serve with crackers or tortilla chips. (I prefer crackers)

Shelbie's Chocolate Peanut Butter Bars
2 cups confectioner's sugar
1 cup peanut butter (Shelbie says you should use a little over a cup)
6 tbsp stick butter, melted
2 cups graham crackers
1 twelve oz package of MILK chocolate chips

Stir all ingredients together except chocolate chips. Press into a 9x13 pan. Microwave chocolate chips for 2 minutes, stirring every 30 seconds. Pour chocolate over peanut butter mixture. Refrigerate for 30-45 minutes; serve.

Now I'm not promising to update this blog extremely frequently. But I will be moving my Meatless/Meatfree Monday posts here, and adding recipes or other cooking posts when it strikes my fancy. I'm also teaching my kids to cook, so there will be posts on that too - fun! I hope you enjoy! Oh and please follow me!


  1. Sounds yummy, all of it! Looking forward to some fresh ideas.

  2. My family is from (and I was born in) Kentucky. I understand me some Southern Cooking. My Grandmother passed just before Thanksgiving, but one of my most vivid memories of her was the fact that the first thing she said when you came for a visit was, "Are you Hungry? Can I get you something to eat?"

  3. You're ambitious this new year! Way to go...

    That dip looks wonderful.

  4. Two blogs....girl you done lost it! Nah- j/k. I'll put you on my blog roll. I do love food!!!

  5. I love you started a blog like this Cyndy. I didn't get to make the black eyed pea dip for New Year's Eve but I plan to on the next get together. It should be for my Mom's birthday on Jan. 18th and she loves her some black eyed peas too so it should go over well with her.

  6. These sound fantastic! I also joined in on Rachel's Mouthwatering Mondays today with a cookie recipe. As I've mentioned before, I just LOVE finding new recipes to try :)

    Love the new place!

  7. Wow-That dip is really unusual. I'll have to save that recipe (or come back!) :)

    Apparently, Mr.4444 is a southern woman, because he fits all of your descriptions to the "t." haha


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